ChoosingTherapy.com
By Iris Waichler
October 19th, 2023
When you or a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness, a flood of emotions will arise, including denial, helplessness, frustration, and fear. Even with the support of health practitioners, family, and friends, you may still feel alone.
Many people dealing with terminal illnesses struggle with how their impending death will impact their loved ones or how they will use their remaining time. Talking with someone else who has a terminal illness can be very helpful in any stage of illness, and a therapist can also help guide the patient and their family through grief.
Most people are aware of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and her work around the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Grief experts agree these stages occur for many who are facing death, but people also experience grief in different ways and in no specific order. One person may experience one stage longer or shorter than another. Some may not experience all five stages.
Understanding Anticipatory Grief
Anticipatory grief refers to the grief someone experiences before an actual loss occurs. This type of grief can be particularly complex and difficult. However, when someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness, it is normal to face this type of grief. You may start grieving for a life that you will not have. Your loved ones might start grieving the reality of this upcoming change.
If you’re facing a terminal illness, you are not alone. In addition to family and friends, there are healthcare professionals who will offer ongoing treatment and support. Hospice staff are also available to comfort and support both patients and their loved ones, and can help you understand your diagnosis and prepare for whatever comes next.
People experience impending death and the loss of a loved one in their own way, although universal emotions like helplessness, fear, anxiety, and anger often emerge. The more medical, psychological, and family support that the person diagnosed and their loved ones have, the more tools they will have available to cope with what lies ahead.
Here are 17 tips for how to cope with a terminal illness…
Loved ones often feel scared, angry, sad, and guilty when facing another person’s terminal illness. They also often experience a profound sense of helplessness. Nobody wants to risk saying or doing the wrong thing. When it comes to helping your loved one cope, it’s important to try to let go of perfectionism while also keeping some considerations in mind.
Iris Waichler, Licensed Clinical Social Worker
